by Gabe Berman – the author of Live Like a Fruit Fly

Today’s Coronavirus Thoughts

Two butterflies are ballet dancing just above my front lawn while I’m sitting outside having coffee.

Spontaneously and simultaneously choreographed by the great string puller in the sky.

They separate and find each other. Separate and find each other. Separate and find each other.

Butterfly kissing the way young lovers do.

Seemingly without any knowledge of what we humans are going through and might be facing.

But maybe they’re dancing so gleefully today because they’re waiting to get their planet back from us. Since, obviously, we can’t be trusted with it.

But hopefully, after the dust settles and the virus disappears, we’ll finally learn to live more harmoniously with our brothers and sisters.

Regardless of species.

“Make sure the only thing you leave behind are your footprints.” – Dave Matthews


– gb

P.S – Please don’t allow social media to fear-shame you. These are authentically scary times. But with that, please keep a little space open for faith. We’re going to be okay. Love to you all.

Veal Karmasan

Maybe the coronavirus is universal retribution for how abysmally we have treated animals just so we can have our burgers and chicken wings and crab legs.

If so, regardless of how apocalyptic things become, we’ll be getting off easy.

Divorced From Judgment

They wiped tears from their eyes which made me wipe away a few of my own.

With that, I know my lack of success is most often how I’m judged but I sometimes reflexively cry just from the site of unguarded joy and today that’s enough. Enough for me.

And if joy and kindness and mercy and gratefulness and compassion melts you (as well as defines you), I swear to everything holy that you’re enough too.

Read This Before Going To Sleep

I double dog dare you to find something better than this:

I was just pulling into a parking lot while an elderly couple crossed the street adjacent to my car.

The husband was half a step behind his wife and when she saw me inch closer, she instinctively reached back for his hand in mid conversation, and he instinctively took it.

We live in world plagued by illusions hell bent on convincing us that there are things more meaningful than this.

But there aren’t.

We can accept that now or on our death beds.

Thank you, as always, for trading your time for my words. It means the world to me.



Where Is God When Our Loved Ones Get Sick?

Burn The Feel

It’s official, I’ve encountered people more lopsided than trump supporters.

Bernie supporters who won’t vote blue if their precious candidate loses.

They think they’ll teach us a lesson.

I have some news for you, you fucking children, if we lose this election, it might be the last free one. Ever. They’ll be no one left of consequence to learn lessons.


Trump, that awful phony Christian demon, was elected directly by non-voters.

And if he gets “elected” again, the people who traded their lives to protect us and our constitution, the hundreds of thousands throughout history, will have died in vain.

Their graves shitted upon.

Please put country over candidate.


I know you’re good people who want us to do better as a nation. But we can have our revolution after. After we win back our country.

Bernie or Biden. Please hold your nose and choose one.

They both, rather courageously, care about the least among us. Just in slightly different ways.


Thank you.

I love you.

– gb

P.S. I’m sorry to be so hardcore but lives are literally at stake here. Kids are dying in cages. The environment is eroding. Millions will lose health care.

This is the most important thing any of us will ever do.

We must be saved. And we can only save ourselves.

So when I say I’m sorry, I’m mean – not at all.

Help Me, You’re My Only Hope


I still love Star Wars.

But even if you’re not a Star Wars fan, I PROMISE you’re going to appreciate my new favorite scene out of the entire saga.

Thirty minutes into The Force Awakens (VII), Finn and Rey, who just met, are slammed to the ground by an overhead laser blast and barely escape death.

Finn however, has been knocked unconscious due to the proximity of the explosion.

When his eyes open a moment later, he sees Rey and his very first thought is about HER safety. Not his own.

With dire concern in his voice he asks, “Are you okay??”

Not only is she okay, she’s taken aback by his reflexive selflessness.

Because HE was the one hurt!

Heroic love.

What’s more noble? More beautiful?


And with that my friends, thank you for taking the time to read this and may the force be with you.

– gb

SPF 9 Million

I just walked into Starbucks and the girl working there was so kind to me.

So I told her how much I appreciated her kindness.

She said, “Well, I appreciate you. You’re one of the few people who come in here regularly with a smile.”

I said, while smiling because I never think I smile enough, “Well, I don’t know how often I smile, but I always have love for you guys.”

And then she said, while smiling, “We feel your warmth.”

With that, let me tell whoever happens to be reading this, in a world constantly trying to hypnotize you into feeling that you’re not enough, please allow me to rip you from that sleep and say: if you have kindness in your heart and spread that shit liberally like suntan lotion to everyone without exception, you’re enough.

The end.

Thank you 🙂


Life After Kobe Bryant

Do you know what happened to me right after I found out about Kobe yesterday?


Just like you, my life clicked right back to normal within five minutes.

I’m a lifelong Laker fan, and this is absolutely awful about him and his daughter (and surviving family), but the status-quo re-reigned over my mind in mere minutes. Worrying about whatever I was worrying about etc etc.

But imagine if we remained aware, more often than not, that our lives and the lives of our loved ones can be stomped out of existence before the next goddamn sunset?

Because the hard truth is, we’re always just right around the corner from losing everything. Everything that’s truly important. Everything that actually counts.

Do you think we’d be more forgiving? More automatically and unconditionally loving? Do you think we’d ignore the nonsense of the world in order to turn our attention to what’s beautiful and add to that beauty when we can?

Of course we would.

In my own defense however, I’m already pretty good with this.

But I’m going to start being better.

Right here.

Right now.

Who’s with me?

Live Like A Fruit Fly,

– gabe

Where Do I End And You Begin?

Look how beautifully this plant in front of where I live expresses itself.

It’s completely green except for one oasis of orange.

It has caused me to realize that the entire plant kingdom expresses itself beautifully, one hundred percent of the time.

I hope one day we can evolve to this level of mastery.

All it would take is no longer distinguishing ourselves from others.

Thank you for spending these few moments with me – gb

The Untold Truth About You

Hey you… yes, you. The person looking down at their phone right now.   

Let me just take this moment to tell you that you’re already enough.  

Society has been telling you otherwise since you were old enough to have language in your mind.  And then your mind repeats it to itself in an endless loop.  And that loop is constantly reinforced by the media, by your family and by your relationships.  

But let me tell you the truth. Right here. Right now. 

If kindness is your set point, you are enough.  As is. Right here. Right now.  

This is a new day and you can begin being more kind in this instant.  Start with yourself.  Your perfect little cells are listening. 

And then be more kind to others.  And then to all of life.  Without exception or expectation.  

As far as being more kind to yourself goes, let all of the “should” and “shouldnts” arise as they do and then let them dissolve.  Try not to build bridges to them in your mind.  In other words, don’t attach yourself to them. 

And they’ll fade away. 

You. Are.  Enough.  As. Is.  

Smile at all who say otherwise. They’re caterpillars.  And you’re already a butterfly.  I promise.  

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  Really, I’m grateful you did.  And I’m sure your insides are now grateful too. 

– gb

(this could be my last post ever – but I doubt it will be)

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