And The Killer Is…
Dhani Harrison said his father, George, rarely gave him advice.
“The only two things he felt I had to do in my life were be happy and meditate,” he once told Rolling Stone.
I quoted this to a friend of mine the other day because she was feeling uninspired and directionless.
I then said, “You’re healthy, your family is healthy, you have have money in the bank, why don’t you just allow yourself to sit there in Starbucks and chill.”
She knew this. Of course she knew this.
But she got caught up in comparison. She felt discouraged with just “being” while watching all of the busy people “doing”. They were rushing around, coming and going, typing with intention on their laptops, and seemingly, living lives with some sort of purpose.
And I’m sure she looked through Facebook with all of those pictures of perfect, happy people with their perfect, healthy meals and thought, “Jesus man! What the hell am I doing with myself?”
It’s not her fault to feel this way. And it’s not yours if you feel this way as well.
I know I sure do at times.
Our society is built on comparison. It fuels the machine.
But comparison, when you’re trying to live a gentle, spiritual life, is the killer.
Do you hear that?
Comparison is the killer.
And what are we really comparing ourselves too? Usually, mere illusions.
A few weeks ago, I typed to an old friend on Facebook, “I’m so happy that you and your wife look so happy. And your kids are so cute. Good for you man, you deserve it.”
A few hours later he responded with, “Thanks so much. But do you really think we’re going to post pictures of us fighting?”
It’s all an illusion. Just a very convincing illusion.
If you must compare yourself to others, skip over the rats in the race. Look for the people who are simply sitting there. Sitting there with a slight smile and breathing just to breathe.
There’s a good chance these people aren’t always happy, because, as you know – life sometimes has a sick sense of humor. But they’ve obviously learned to enjoy the times when there’s nothing better to do than just enjoy the time.
The clock continues to click regardless.
“In Live Like a Fruit Fly, Gabe Berman shares his recipe for living a more joyful, worthwhile, and abundant life in every way. A witty, entertaining, and insightful read.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success